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Take a deep breath . . . you ARE overreacting. Having Godparents that are from different families or sides of the family . . . or that are unrelated is totally normal. You wouldn't want to be told who you HAD to choose for your child's Godmother . . . or who you HAD to have as your Maid of Honor.

Your feelings about it are fine - especially as initial feelings. Let it go. Why cause yourself to be miserable? It's not worth it . . . life is too short . . . and they'll probably have more kids. AND if you're not chosen as Godmother for the next child . . . get over it and let it go again (and as many times as needed).

If this situation causes a disruption with you and the family, why would they EVER consider you to be a Godparent for the next child? GODparents are role models and should be examples of the faith leading Christ-like lives. Being grumpy and bitter is the antithesis of that.

Earn the privilege of being asked . . . no one appreciates an air of entitlement.

Thanks -- at least I am not the only one who feels this way. I know I will get over it but my feelings are just really, really hurt. If she chose a relative I would have completely understood, but I think the fact that it was a friend upset me over choosing family, especially when my husband is the godfather. I guess I would feel better about if they even addressed it with me, but instead they told my husband and said hope she's not offended. I feel like it is awkward to bring it up at this point so I'm just going to let it go.

I wouldn't let this come between me and my family, especially my niece -- I may be upset about this, but it is what it is. I'm just hurt and needed to vent.

Hi Aunties,

First, I want to say how excited I am about this website, excellent idea SavvyAuntie!

auntiedaisy, I was very hurt as well when I was passed over 3 times to be godmother to my nieces(710yrs) and nephew(5yrs), especially since it was family friends, but not so much now. As the years have gone by, I have always been there for them, not their godparents. As MLLinton says, don't get hung up on titles. My nieces and nephew don't even remember who their godparents are, but they know who I am! I get hand written letters in the mail telling me how much they love me and miss me....(tearing)......I bet the godparents aren't getting these. What a great feeling it is to open the mail box and see the chicken scratch envelope addressed to me. It just makes a bad day melt away! So, stay very close to your niece and do the little things for her, this is what she will remember, not the title and you will start getting letters to! Stay cool Aunties! - auntieHelCat.

Im going through the same thing, so i know how you feel. I would rather have the title of aunite then godmother personally. Not letting it get to you is the best thing. :)

I am joining this thread very late in the conversation..by several years, but having only just discovered savvy auntie (a big thank you to Melanie for creating), and wanted to say I've always been of the view that people picked are typically those you feel and are close to, and who can be role models. As an aunt, you already have an official role, so being asked to be godmother as well is a bit of a double up. You shouldn't be hurt (although I completely empathise with the feelings you had). You are the aunt, and you should embrace being that full heartedly; it is an important role and you have a legitimate direct link by blood to your nieces and nephews, which is stronger than god parent. I'm sure by now you are ok with this, and hope by now you feel empowered in the role you already have. Typically, I've always thought it was usually a close friend that was picked as god parents. An additional role model in the child's life, along with the relatives they'll have. But I felt your pain, as personally myself, I was offended when a good friend of mine not only didn't ask me to be god mother to any of her 3 boys, she didn't even invite me to any of their christenings!