Hi, im new here but your post sounds familiar! I am an auntie by choice to my best friends adorable 4yo and 16month old boys and she has another boy on the way, we met in another town but after moving here seperately we were lucky enough to end up living on the same street just like before so I see them pretty much every day, I look after them, do school run for the older one, do dinner, bath bed routine on the occasions mum and dad are both on night shifts. However my 21yo sister has just had her first baby (my first niece eek!) and I have soooo much anxiety, I cant imagine sacrificing the time I have with my boys, having the same kind of bond with my niece as I will with the new nephew or the 4yo and 16month old. My best friend is very similar to wyatts mom in that they live close by, dont have many family members or friends that take away from that precious auntie time etc and my sister is similar to your other friends in that she has a busier life,more family, lives in a different town etc. For my peace of mind and that of my friend I have had to get my priorities straight in my own head, at the end of the day I was there for the boys first, they were there first, they have a precious bond with me and spend super fun precious time with me. They shouldn't have to miss out because my sister had a baby. There are compromises sometimes, I think if you want to maintain all of your friendships there will be times you'll have to compromise on wyatt to see everyone else and let the bonds with the other babies develop naturally, once you bond with them you'll soon come to see them all mostly equally (the first ones always special hehe) and you'll naturally find a rhythm and routine with all the babies that suits them, you, their parents and the other babies. Just go with the flow, dont put pressure on yourself, continue as you are with wyatt, aim to accept 50% of invitations from the other parents so they feel you value their friendship and are making time for them, and make excuses or tell the truth the other 50% of the time and chill with wyatt whatever you're comfortable with. It will all come naturally and over time believe me!