Sister troubles
By
J23
,
May 28 2019
Hi everyone, I’m new to the forum. I’ve signed up because I’m experiencing problems with my sister “D” who is recently divorced. She has a now 16 year old daughter “ L” who in the last 18 months has had her life turned upside down by her mother (my sister) leaving her father for another man. D is 6 years older than me and we have another sister “E” who is 16 months older than D (and 7 years older than me). I have always got on well with E but we have both found things difficult with D.
I have in the last 18 months tried to be there for my niece. E and her have always had a very close relationship so she’s been there for her too. I’ve done so by increasing contact, taking her to movies, concerts and recently the three of us got really into a tv show and live shows from it that come to town near to us. We stayed on good terms with my niece’s dad (my partner and him are close friends), so we have a WhatsApp group with him and all of us in which we post in regularly. I’ve been doing stuff with her just her and me, me, her and E, and also with the rest of the WhatsApp group, so combinations to try and maintain her sense of family.
D, my niece’s mother really doesn’t like this. I’ve tried to explain to her that we’re doing all of this to support L but all she can say is that she’s had a terrible time and feels left out of everything (despite us trying to include her in stuff - but she says she’s not into any of it). She was the one that left the marriage and ultimately ended up with what she wanted, to be free from her marriage, has bought a house of her own and is in a new relationship with the man she wanted to be with. Not sure how to move forward with her, she’s crying to anyone that will listen that she’s lost us but she hasn’t, we are all still here, it’s just things have changed now. Sorry this is long x