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If the taboo subject to which you are referring is that we are not able to openly discuss anyting less than wonderful about women who have chosen to be mothers...Then I say, Jillian, bring it on. Maybe then the baby bandwagon would look less appealing to so many women who really aren't cut out for motherhood, yet society's motherhood-on-a-pedestal compells to be mothers anyway. The truth is pregnancy is not a great experience for all women. Likewise with parenthood. It needs to be discussed openly so more people will put more thought into parenthood BEFORE conception.

It's certainly her choice and I don't think it's selfish. There are lots of reasons why some women shouldn't give birth and I applaud her for understanding her body enough to know it's not the right choice for her. What does irk me is the flippancy of the Oh, I'll just adopt attitude, as if it's as easy a going to WalMart and picking a baby off the shelf. I'm sure her celebrity status will help open many doors and smooth the path for her, but adoption is difficult and can be very traumatic. It's certainly not the easier option.

I am mystified on why people are upset with her comments. Maybe I am clueless. She would rather love a child who is not wanted than give birth? Good for her! And lets face it - -pregnancy DOES change a woman's body. I can understand her concern about not wanting to go through a pregnancy if she's concerned about gaining weight and not being able to get it off again. So many of my friends who are overweight - and even my sisters - had that concern before being moms, and for all but one of them, they were right. I think the women who have a problem with Jillian's statements are the ones being selfish!