Dear How to Be The Best,
I would like to be helpful to you but I don’t know what you mean about "being the best." In child rearing, respecting the baby, and on through adulthood, is as important as loving.
The common questions that Savvy Aunties ask are: “Why don’t the mom and dad listen to me?” and “Why do they leave me out of decisions?"The answer is that having a baby is monumental emotionally. The parents are usually sleep deprived and their own relationship is deeply affected. It is a crisis!
So, in the beginning, you are not front and center. Having raised your sister does give you an advantage, but that is ancient history right now for your sister. Being a mother is most important to her! I recommend not making any suggestions (this is hard), not being critical, and supporting her.
There is no “best“ only “good enough." It is not a competition; it is support, caring, and lots of love for the new mom and dad.
Please write me again and let me know details of your situation.
I hope this helpful,
Natalie Robinson Garfield
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