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The new documentary film Bully powerfully examines the culture of bullying in America.  Since, as the movie notes, bullying is the most common form of violence against young people in the country, your niece or nephew is most likely affected in some way by bullying. Here are 4 ways to “Auntie Up” to the film, Bully:

1.      Take advantage of your role. As an aunt, you might have a special opportunity to get your niece or nephew to open up to you — maybe even more than they would disclose to their parents. Consider taking your niece or nephew to see the movie, and spending time with them afterwards so the two of you can discuss the film. There a number of intense scenes that can serve as great conversation starters.

2.      Assess the impact. There has been a great deal of controversy surrounding the rating of this film. It was given an R rating by the MPAA for language. Does your niece or nephew feel that the language used makes an impact in this film? What are the scenes that they thought were hardest to watch and why? Assessing which aspects of the film resonate with your niece or nephew will help facilitate an open discussion. 

3.      Prepare yourself. If you find that your niece or nephew is being bullied or knows kids that are being bullied, arm yourself with a few resources for you to help start the conversation with your niece or nephew, and possibly with their parents.  One useful online resource can be found at: http://www.commonsensemedia.org/advice-for-parents/5-things-you-need-know-about-cyberbullying

4.      Bully-proof your loved ones. It’s essential to listen and understand what role your niece or nephew is playing in a bullying situation. Are they a victim? Are they the bully? Are they just standing by? If your niece or nephew doesn’t speak up to a trusted adult, the cycle of bullying will continue — either online or in person. Get your niece or nephew motivated and feeling safe about standing up to bullying with a few helpful tips.

Photo: Facebook.com/BullyMovie

Published: March 24, 2012